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Ask For It

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Ask For It

How Women Can Use Negotiation to Get What They Really Want
In their groundbreaking book, Women Don't Ask, Linda Babcock and Sara Laschever uncovered a startling fact: even women who negotiate brilliantly on behalf of others often falter when it comes to asking...
In their groundbreaking book, Women Don't Ask, Linda Babcock and Sara Laschever uncovered a startling fact: even women who negotiate brilliantly on behalf of others often falter when it comes to asking...
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  • In their groundbreaking book, Women Don't Ask, Linda Babcock and Sara Laschever uncovered a startling fact: even women who negotiate brilliantly on behalf of others often falter when it comes to asking for themselves. Now they've developed the action plan that women all over the country requested--a guide to negotiation that starts before you get to the bargaining table.

    Ask for It explains why it's essential to ask (men do it all the time) and teaches you how to ask effectively, in ways that feel comfortable to you as a woman. Whether you currently avoid negotiating like the plague or consider yourself hard-charging and fearless, Babcock and Laschever's compelling stories of real women will help you recognize how much more you deserve--whether it's a raise, that overdue promotion, an exciting new assignment, or even extra help around the house. Their four-phase program, backed by years of research, will show you how to identify what you're really worth, maximize your bargaining power, develop the best strategy for your situation, and manage the reactions and emotions that may arise--on both sides. Guided step-by-step, you'll learn how to draw on the special strengths you bring to the negotiating table to reach agreements that benefit everyone involved.

    This collaborative, problem-solving approach will propel you to new places both professionally and personally--and open doors you thought were closed. Because if you never hear no, you're not asking enough.

    From the Hardcover edition.
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  • Chapter One

    Why you need to ask

    IF YOU'RE A WOMAN, you probably have a voice inside your head that whispers:

    "Are you sure you're as good as you think you are?"

    Or maybe it says:

    "Why can't you be happy with what you've got? Don't you have enough already?"

    Or perhaps, even though you're very successful, you hear that voice warning:

    "Watch out. Don't get pushy. . . ."

    This voice probably talks the loudest when you're thinking about asking for something you want--a raise, a better title, more power or responsibility, or even more help around the house. And the odds are, you listen to this voice. You may think it's the voice of experience, or maybe your common sense preventing you from doing something rash. Or perhaps you think you should be grateful for what you've got--you should feel lucky--and not screw things up by reaching for more.

    We've written this book to help you talk back to that voice. Because that voice is not the voice of experience and it's not your common sense. It's not even your voice. It's the voice of a society that hasn't progressed nearly as far as we'd like to think, a society that's still trying to tell women how they should and shouldn't behave. It's a voice whose message is conveyed, often unwittingly, by our parents, teachers, colleagues, and friends--and then repeated and amplified by the media and popular culture.

    If you have that voice in your head, whoever's voice it is, that voice is holding you back. It's slowing you down, it's damaging your self-esteem, and it's costing you money. By telling you not to ask for the things you want, that voice is cutting you off from dozens--maybe hundreds--of opportunities to improve your life and increase your happiness. It's also preventing you from learning how to negotiate for what you need with skill and confidence. It's preventing you from discovering the ways in which negotiating effectively can be an extraordinary tool for transforming your life.


    Women don't ask


    We know that this is true--that women don't ask for what they want and need, and suffer severe consequences as a result--because we've spent years studying the phenomenon. In the mid-1990s, Linda was serving as the director of the Ph.D. program at the Heinz School, the graduate school of public policy and management at Carnegie Mellon University, where she teaches. One day a group of female graduate students came to her office. "Why are most of the male students in the program teaching their own courses this fall," the women asked, "while all the female graduate students have been assigned to act as teaching assistants to regular faculty?" Not knowing the answer, Linda took the students' question to the associate dean in charge of making teaching assignments, who happened to be her husband. His reply was straightforward. "I'll try to find teaching opportunities for any student who approaches me with a good idea for a course, the ability to teach, and a reasonable offer about what it will cost," he said. "More men ask. The women just don't ask."

    Could he be right? Linda recalled other situations in which a female student had protested because a male student had enjoyed some form of special treatment. One woman told Linda that she assumed she couldn't march in June graduation ceremonies the year she completed her dissertation because she wasn't scheduled to get her degree until August. She asked why Linda had allowed two men to march who also didn't finish until the end of the summer. Another woman asked why Linda had found funding for a male student to attend an important public policy conference and hadn't provided the same opportunity to her. A third woman...

About the Author-
  • Linda Babcock is a James M. Walton Professor of Economics at the H. John Heinz III School of Public Policy and Management of Carnegie Mellon University in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. She has also been a visiting professor at Harvard Business School, The Unicersity of Chicago Graduate School of Business, and the California Institute of Technology. A specialist in negotiation and dispute resolution, her research has appeared in the most prestigious economics, inductrial relations, and law journals.

    Sara Laschever's work has been published by the New York Times, the New York Review of Books, and Vogue, among other publications. She was also the principal interviewer for Project Access, a landmark Harvard University study on women in science careers funded by the National Science Foundation. She lives in Concord, Mass.

    From the Hardcover edition.

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  • Lois P. Frankel, Ph.D., author of Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office and Nice Girls Don't Get Rich. "Nice girls don't ask, but smart women do. Ask for It provides the tangible tools and tips you need to get your fair share of the raises, promotions, and perks you've earned--and deserve."
  • Evelyn Murphy, President, The WAGE Project, Inc.; author of Getting Even: Why Women Don't Get Paid Like Men and What To Do About It "Combining sophisticated strategy with down-to-earth action, Ask for It gives women a groundbreaking gift: the means to ask for what they're worth. Women learn how to change their fear of negotiating into confidence that they'll gain more if they ask for more--more pay, more status, more resources, more equitable treatment. Required reading for working women."
  • Lindsay Hyde, President, Strong Women, Strong Girls, Inc. "Filled with practical tips and real-life examples, Ask for It empowers women to ask for what they want and get it. A must-read for any woman looking to make a change at home or on the job."
  • Miriam Nelson, Ph.D., author of Strong Women Stay Young and Strong Women, Strong Bones "This upbeat, realistic, and inspiring book will help you create new possibilities in every part of your life--whether you're just starting out or already mid-career. There's even a "negotiation gym" for building your confidence and skills before you go for the gold. Give it to your mother, your daughter, your sister, your friends!"
  • Publishers Weekly "The authors have devised a four-phase program of strategies and exercises to determine what you want, what you're worth and how to increase your bargaining power.... This book is a practical and empowering resource, invaluable to anyone, male or female, looking to gain an advantage at the negotiation table."
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